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Yardena Schwersky's avatar

This song and your words are both so bright and beautiful and full of love

Fog Chaser's avatar

That is really nice of you to say, Yardena - thank you so much for listening and reading!

Bridget's avatar

This beautiful song is exactly the balm my tender heart needed today. Thank you.

Fog Chaser's avatar

I'm so glad to hear that, Bridget - thank you so much for letting me know.

a. vos's avatar

guitar tone is too damn good

Fog Chaser's avatar

High praise from you, Austin - thanks so much man

Ben Wakeman's avatar

Absolutely gorgeous Matt. I’m laying in a hammock in the middle of the woods, listening to it right now. So good my friend.

Fog Chaser's avatar

Man, what a beautiful way to experience it. Thank you for listening out there in the woods — hope the writing has been going well, and hope the quiet has been exactly what you needed.

Bree Stilwell's avatar

Sitting alone in an empty house this morning—husband working, boys all away overnight—I’m not at all embarrassed to tell you how the tears flowed, reading and listening to this. Such a hard and often desolate road here, inhospitable at times, I could only know this level of gratitude having yearned so deeply for what I managed to find.

Thank you as always, Matt, for giving us these moments… full stops with the most sublime views.

Fog Chaser's avatar

Wow, thank you Bree. What a beautiful way to put it. The contrast between the hard, desolate stretches of yearning (the exact right word) and the gratitude on the other side...that's weathering in its truest form. Thank you as always.

Bree Stilwell's avatar

Your combination of context with the music... it just hits me right where I live.

Kerani Arpaia's avatar

"Everything made more beautiful because of what it endures, not in spite of it." I love the way you talk about parenthood Matt. Your words always feel so resonate with my own experience with my little guy, capturing that beautiful complexity of watching them grow older and cherishing them while they're young. This piece feel like that, like quiet mornings holding a baby folding into the opening wonder and joy when they become they're own little person.

Fog Chaser's avatar

Thank you, Kerani - this is so right, so touching. The way you describe that transition—from holding them close to watching them become their own person—is so tender and true. I'm grateful these pieces are meeting you where you are with little J. Thank you for sharing this (and thank you for listening, as always).

Susie Mawhinney's avatar

So tender Matt, I don't think anything in this world teaches us love more fully, teaches us weathering more fully than a son or a daughter... I have one of each, one grown, one almost - they are my music and my songs, always.

Thank you for this beautiful insightful piece...

Fog Chaser's avatar

"They are my music and my songs, always"—what a beautiful way to hold them. One grown, one almost...you're in such a tender season yourself. Thank you for these words, Susie. They mean a lot.

Louise's avatar

Wonderful as always

Fog Chaser's avatar

Thank you—I really appreciate you being here, Louise.

hw's avatar

No master the topic, the music and words of wisdom in your newsletter are always exactly what I needed to hear.

Fog Chaser's avatar

This means more than you know. Thank you for trusting me with your time and attention each month, hw.

Alice Fogel's avatar

Matt, your beautiful note made me think of this poem from one of my first books.

Weather

The more intimate we are with weather

the less we question anything else.

Birth, death, age and change,

the helplessness of rabbits in an owl’s talons,

the evaporation of wet cloth on the line.

Life is in the melting pawprint of maple leaf

I see each winter in snow, the way the snow

cups itself for warmth beneath thinned leaves,

supports the trunks of trees, smooths the steepness

of hills. Weather saves the important things.

For sons and daughters come again arrows of ice

softening into tears, come again

the lush and the pallid, and the twisted trees like those

Moses must have seen, when he argued with God

to be kind. Now, with this new birth in spring,

everything is as clear as the snow when it melts,

as clear as the spreading green of new leaves,

as the pond skimmed with dragonflies and the air

one coming October day. I could grow old

happily, looking at my world like this, at each

of you in it, every month of the year.

In February the wait. In March the chance

of running sap, birds spreading seed in April

and the drying of heavy mud brushed by wind.

Then the plantings, and blankets for late frost,

the tending of growing things and mending

of fences, all with the touch of the artist

moving through galleries. August’s warm stars,

September’s tomatoes and moons, the autumn

harvesting of daylight, color and food.

The sleepy cold of December, mice running

through ice tunnels into the changing year.

Weather says everything changes, and we know it

with comfort, not fear. Always, the same way,

we talk each year of the differences: Remember

that wall of snow taller than a man, how early

the blackflies came last year? Everything

is precious in continuance and in brevity,

in the sureness of its presence while it lasts,

how it seems to burst upon the scene, and how later

we remember its slow fade. Newest child,

you are the same in how each day, like weather,

you are different, your very cells, the sentience

of your eyes and tiny hands. I love you

for how fragile you are, how close to the surface

that edge of mortality waits, even as you grow.

There is nothing tentative about you, or about

my gaze, which sweeps you in like a tidal wave.

What secret storms will cloud your blood,

what old reigns does your breath recall?

Small blue veins rise on your forehead

like shore birds lifting off from your eyes.

You will not remember this, that I stood watching,

counting your lashes as they grew like evergreens

on a far hillside, when the June sunlight

clarifies every line and shape with heat.

You will not remember a time before the seasons

had gone around enough times for you to know

the meaning of their repetition and trust

their sequence with undying faith.

Bree Stilwell's avatar

Alice, I had to return to this, days later, to give my fullest attention. I admittedly skim most poetry around these parts, but the good stuff sticks in my throat and my belly. Where might I read more of your work??

Alice Fogel's avatar

Bree, thank you so much for asking about my poems. I'm terrible about social media and only show up here once in a while because I'm such a fan of Matt's music (and being). I'm on this page of the Poetry Foundation https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/alice-b-fogel, and elsewhere online, and have a bunch of poetry books out there. The most recent (and not too terribly difficult!) one is Falsework, available through Amazon or maybe through this bookstore https://toadbooks.com/ Thanks again for asking.

Bree Stilwell's avatar

I thought that might be you! I never want to assume the veracity of Google results these days. ;) Thanks so much for responding, and I'm with you here in fandom. Very grateful for the introduction to you and your work, and makes perfect sense that Matt would be the conduit. Hope to see you here in the comments again!

Fog Chaser's avatar

Oh, Alice. This poem is extraordinary. The way you move through the seasons, through birth and watching and the trust that comes from repetition—it's breathtaking. "You will not remember this, that I stood watching" broke my heart. Thank you for this gift, thank you for sharing it.

Chip Martin's avatar

Thank you - and for the riff on fatherhood.

Fog Chaser's avatar

Of course. Thank you for being here, Chip

Michelle's avatar

gorgeous song....well done :) it just makes me feel good....

Fog Chaser's avatar

That's all I could hope for. Thank you for listening, Michelle!

Lor's avatar

It is a lovely blustery, pale blue sky day. I cannot be sure, but as I sit within the mood of your photos, thoughts and musical notes, I do believe you have called the White throated sparrows down to our bird bath. I choose to believe in the magic of music and bird serenade.

Thanks, Matt!

Fog Chaser's avatar

I absolutely choose to believe in that magic too. What a perfect image—the sparrows arriving on a blustery pale blue day. Thank you for sitting with this one, Lor!

miter's avatar

Another lovely gem, Matt. And some good dadspriation. I've been in a negative parenting mood this morning regarding general societal failures to support kids and parents, but this turned that around a bit. Thanks!

Fog Chaser's avatar

Man, I feel you on that. Some mornings the weight of it all is too much, and the failures you're talking about are real and heavy. You're showing up anyway Ryan, and that's what matters. I feel like most of the time we're all doing our best in what seem like impossible conditions. Anyway, I'm really glad this turned your morning around a bit.

miter's avatar

For real...thanks, man.

Maureen Moeller's avatar

Oops Father’s Song and we are desert dwellers (AZ) but have not visited Big Bend yet. Will do after seeing these pics.

Fog Chaser's avatar

I hope you make it to Big Bend someday! It's stunning and vast. Definitely worth the trip from AZ. These pictures are mostly from the Chisos Mountains area.

Maureen Moeller's avatar

Listened to Weathering, gorgeous guitar. I am hooked so checked out Apple Music and there was Oblivion! Thank you for the Father’s Poem; we did not have a daughter (3 sons) but I watch my oldest son with his two daughters and I can feel and see his tender fragility toward them. They are strong little girls who are brave and yes, teach him risk. Oblivion is the prefect backdrop for melancholy autumn. Thank you for your achingly beautiful music. It will keep me afloat during these strange times and remind me to turn toward loved ones and nature.

Fog Chaser's avatar

This is such a beautiful reflection, Maureen—thank you for sharing it. Watching your oldest with his daughters sounds like its own kind of teaching, but his "tender fragility" is surely the mark of his having been raised by thoughtful and patient parents. I'm glad you liked the poem. I have a son, too (no daughter), but I came across the poem after my little guy face-planted off of a tall chair (after I asked him not to sit on it, of course) and it was exactly what I needed to read. And thank you for listening to Oblivion!